Can sin be handed to someone and what do you do regarding these sins? Let me explain. When I was a child and had my first birthday party with "friends", I didnt feel like I had any friends and my parents invited my whole class. My parents set up a game of hide-n-seek with Easter eggs and my instinct was to hand all of my Easter eggs to the kids that were having a hard time finding them.
Fast forward and my parents buy me my first car for which I was thankful but also leaving with my parents going off to college in the big city.
Now most of what I own is given to me as a gift.... Such are things that would be dishonorable to my parents if I ever gave them away. My parents have been generous to me and I love them for it but now I have this wealth that I feel would be wrong to give.
Is it greed that I hold onto it or greed that my parents wanted me to have all of this? All I have ever wanted was to have the opportunity to do good and now everything I have is like an anchor weighing me down and keeping me from moving. Walls that are so tight, I have a hard time turning. A ceiling so low that it makes my neck hurt. A car not built for travel but for going to and from a job that is isolated from the world. A job that costs so much to work that I barely have enough to give afterwards.
I went to college for art so that I could try and make the world a more beautiful place but failed to get a job out of college and my parents saved me by having a position ready for me for when I failed so that I could pay off my college debt.
I am told there is a difference between Gods plan and my plan and thay plan has led me to the Catholic Church but is Gods plan also my fathers plan for me? I feel so trapped by a wealth that my father gave me... Is it also a wealth that my FATHER gave me to be an anchor that holds me in place? Is it greed that I choose not to dishonor my parents or is it my parents greed that I am made to feel that it is dishonoring them to hold onto it?
Should I not be that child that wants to give all of his eggs away to the kids that could not find any? Am I to have my father tell me that I should not give them away because they are my eggs?
@resonantcog
October 31, 2026
Can a sin be felled on someone?
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@ridimapinto26Oct 31Sorry, I don't understand. Are your parents stopping you from doing any kind of almsgiving/charity?
@resonantcogOct 31I was taught by my parents that regifting was bad. My fother hates that I am in OCIA right now because she is afraid that that the Church will swindle all of my money from me. My father would feel insulted if I sold or gave away anything that he gave me.
@resonantcogOct 31*My mother hates thay I am in OCIA.
@ridimapinto26Oct 31@resonantcog giving alms to those is need is not really a re-gifting as such. It is charity and generosity. Discernment is certainly needed when being charitable. You would need to ensure that your alms and charity are going to those in need, for the maintenance of your parish, etc. Considering that you are an adult, your parents have very limited authority over you and your decisions. we also are not bound to obey those in authority if they are encouraging sin or rather discouraging us from pursuing goodness and truth.
@resonantcogOct 31@ridimapinto26 If everything I own is thanks to my parents then wouldn't it be regifting to give any of it?
@ridimapinto26Oct 31@resonantcog charity to those in need is not a matter of gifting, it can mean survival for so many desperate people. And even if it is a re-gift, if your parents gave you something, what you do with it is upto you, considering that you are an adult.
@resonantcogOct 31@ridimapinto26 If I am to give alms against my parents wishes as I would only be giving something they gave me, would I not be guilty of failing to honor my parents? This is the dilemma I am asking about.
@ridimapinto26Oct 31@resonantcog you have to answer God on how did you steward the gifts He has ultimately given you. As a grown adult, you cannot put any blame on your parents.
@resonantcogOct 31@ridimapinto26 Do I assume that you think it is greed on my part to honor my parents by not giving things that my parents have given to me and they would be upset if I gave them away?
@ridimapinto26Oct 31@resonantcog do you have any income of your own?
@ridimapinto26Oct 31@resonantcog read the parable of the rich young man for some perspective. Mark 10:17-31. Besides, when you do any kind of charity, you don't have to tell everyone about it. So even if you do help someone in need, your parents will not know about it.
@hardearnedpesoOct 31I think you're overthinking it. You ought to give a tithe of your income to alms, and not a penny more. God doesn't ask for more than a tenth of what you earn.
Besides, I see that you are married? You two have become one flesh, apart from their parents. If you own this wealth, it is yours to give.
Think of great saints like Saint Francis who vowed to give away all of his inheritance, to the chagrin of his father.
Besides, I see that you are married? You two have become one flesh, apart from their parents. If you own this wealth, it is yours to give.
Think of great saints like Saint Francis who vowed to give away all of his inheritance, to the chagrin of his father.
@resonantcogOct 31I appreciate this response wholeheartedly. I will meditate on what you have given me. My hope is to be able to do these things without dishonoring my parents. Even at my age, I look to take care of them until they pass but I want to do what is right even if they do not approve.
@hardearnedpesoOct 31@resonantcog May God bless you! And your parents ✝️❤️
@misericordiaNov 1Good question! If your parents decide to give something to you, it's yours now. They don't have a say anymore in what you do with it. So yes, you can use it to give alms - which is a very good and necessary thing to do. If your parents disagree, it's their own choice if they'll continue to give you things or not.
Though just be prudent in what you keep and what you give away. You don't want to give away too much when that makes you end up in financial trouble yourself and you'd have to ask your parents for help. For example, when they give you things and tell you that they want you to use it for a specific purpose (like studies or whatever) and you actually need that, you'd honor them if you use it for that.
Though just be prudent in what you keep and what you give away. You don't want to give away too much when that makes you end up in financial trouble yourself and you'd have to ask your parents for help. For example, when they give you things and tell you that they want you to use it for a specific purpose (like studies or whatever) and you actually need that, you'd honor them if you use it for that.
@misericordiaNov 1Also, think of all the saints who gave alms - some of them, like St. Francis Assisi and St. Carlo Acutis, also had parents who didn't understand that or like it. You're not alone in this struggle.
