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@maraTo anyone travelling to Spain
Hi! I'm Maria, a cradle catholic from Madrid (Spain). If you come to Spain this summer I'd be glad to help or give any advice you need. Also, if anyone comes to the Madrid area I'd love to show my fellow catholics around or help in any way I can. PS: Pope Leo is coming to Madrid in june, cant wait!!!!!
l/ministrybuilders
@misericordiaIntroduce your ministry here
To inspire others or look for possible collaborations.
l/wellbeing
@thelegion@flatire just completed "Fr. Mike on Fitness"
l/mensstylelooksmaxxing but good
been thinking about this lately. there's something about actually taking care of yourself, like genuinely, that shifts how you see things. i spent years letting myself go because i thought caring about how i looked was vain or whatever. turns out neglecting yourself is its own kind of pride, like you're above putting in the work. now i'm working out, eating better, actually grooming myself properly and it's not about vanity at all. it's respect. respect for the body you've been given. makes you feel more present too, more grounded. anyone else find that taking the looksmaxx route actually deepened their faith instead of competing with it?
l/womensstyleFemininity at work- former tomboy, kinda
Been thinking a lot about what it means to embrace femininity as a Catholic woman in a workplace that doesn't really value it. My industry is very male-dominated and the unspoken message is always that you have to be tough, aggressive, kind of masculine to be taken seriously. I used to buy into that completely. But lately I'm realizing that softness and strength aren't opposites, and there's something beautiful and actually powerful about showing up as yourself. I'm trying to stop apologizing for caring about how I look, or for being warm with colleagues, or for wanting grace in how I move through my day. It's a small act of resistance in a way, choosing to be feminine on purpose rather than just adopting whatever armor everyone else is wearing. Anyone else figuring this out?
l/mentalhealth
@trulifeofcinHappy mental health Monday everyone - how are we all doing?
How did the weekend treat everyone? How is Monday treating you? Weekend was relaxing for me. I rarely take the time to relax and chill even though I know that mentally I need it! So I let it be done this weekend and I am feeling optimistic this Monday unlike how I normally feel when I am burned out from the week!
l/graduatestudents
@klarissa_l🙏Prayer Requests
☀️Good Morning Everyone! Drop your prayer requests below! I’d love to know how I can pray for you all and support you in your academic/professional journeys!
@limitaneus_christiHello
Hi all, I saw there wasn’t a group for military and law enforcement, so I kicked it off. I’ll start with an introduction. I’ve been in law enforcement for 15 years, just promoted more out of a sense of duty, since I really enjoy what I do. I’m an EMT as a collateral duty and have spent time in most of the field units my agency offers, with the exception of Special Operations. Might give that a shot once I’m through my supervisory probation, but I dunno, mileage is starting to add up on my body. I am currently on the sidelines for a chronic back injury, but I’m a blue belt in BJJ and plan to return when I am able. I also have a garage sized small business designing tactical gear. So that’s me. Introduce yourself and maybe suggest a few topics or questions for us to talk through!
l/personalfinance
@lorena_4Purchasing a car
Hi all! Thinking of getting another car. Notice that I didn’t say “new” because buying a brand new car is such a ripoff. My current Toyota Corolla is 10 years old, and I’m about to break the 100,000 miles mark. I’d like to purchase a Toyota Camry that has less than 50,000 and/or it’s within 4 years old so that the warranty still covers it. My financial planner recommends CarMax, and someone at work mentioned Hertz Car Sales. Do you have any recommendations or suggestions?
l/mensstyleMorning routine suggestions?
I'm trying to lock in a solid morning routine that actually sticks. Right now I'm doing some basic skincare and cold showers but I feel like I'm missing something. What does everyone's morning look like? Specifically looking for stuff that doesn't require crazy equipment or take forever but actually moves the needle. Also curious if anyone here combines this with prayer or spiritual practice in the morning. I've been doing the Rosary after my workout and it's been pretty grounding, just wondering what others are doing.
Pope Leo's fav movie?
Does anyone else find themselves rewatching It's a Wonderful Life every year even though you know exactly what happens? I watched it again last night and still got emotional at the end. There's something about how it shows the interconnectedness of our lives and how our choices matter that just hits different. I think it's one of the most Catholic films ever made, even if it's not explicitly about Catholicism. The whole premise is basically about human dignity and how every person's existence has value. Anyway, if you haven't seen it in a while, it's worth revisiting.
l/keralacatholicsRaising kids in faith without being annoying about it
I've got a 12-year-old and a 9-year-old, and honestly, getting them to care about going to Mass feels like herding cats some days. They'd rather be home playing with their friends. I used to think the answer was more rules and more talking about sin and hellfire, but that just made them resent it. What's actually worked is letting them see that this matters to me, not because I'm trying to earn points upstairs, but because it makes my life better. We've started a small thing where after Mass on Sundays, we go get appam from that shop near the church and just talk about whatever. My daughter actually asked me a real question about God last week without me prompting it. So if you're frustrated with your kids, maybe it's not about forcing them to understand yet. It's about showing them you're serious without making it a punishment. Would love to hear what works for other parents here.
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@deborahCurious who’s here.
I'm curious who is gathered here in this little corner of the Church. Were you born Catholic and never left the Barque of Peter?Did you wander, bleed, wrestle, and come home?Did you come from another Christian tradition and enter into full communion with Rome?Or did grace ambush you from completely outside the walls? Vote below, and tell us the short version of your story in the comments. Because every Catholic has a road.Some were carried to the font as infants.Some crawled back through the wreckage.Some crossed the Tiber with Scripture in one hand and surrender in the other.Some were found when they weren't even looking. How did Christ bring you to His Church?
l/gamers
@sack_bag_duck_manFor Honor
anyone still playing for honor?
l/forum
@zacharyMy story back to Jesus Christ  
 Early in  2018, I was diagnosed with (ESRD) End-Stage Renal disease, and I had to start dialysis immediately. I prayed to God for the first time in years and begged Him that, if He saved my life, I would dedicate my life to Him. Within seven months of that diagnosis, my cousin from Florida flew all the way to UCLA to donate her kidney and save my life.  Since then, I have been a committed Catholic. I have also joined the Knights of Columbus here in Southern California, attend church almost daily, and serve my community in every way I can.
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@roamingtoromePrayer for vocations
PRAYER PROVIDED BY THE CATHOLIC DIOCESE OF MAITLAND-NEWCASTLE FOR VOCATION SUNDAY, THE FOURTH SUNDAY OF EASTER. Eternal God, Through the life of your son, you invited all people to "come and see" and to make a home with you. Through the gift of baptism, you have opened our ears that, through word and sacrament, we may hear your call on our lives. We pray that young people may answer this call to ordained priesthood and shepherd your people, to the permanent diaconate and proclaim your gospel, to religious life and witness poverty, chastity, and obedience, to marriage and embody Christ's love for the church, to single life and serve you more completely. Inspire our lives so that we may have the courage to respond, "speak, Lord, for your servant is listening". We make this prayer through your son, Jesus Christ. Amen
l/maitlandnewcastle@roamingtoromePrayer for vocations
PRAYER PROVIDED BY THE CATHOLIC DIOCESE OF MAITLAND-NEWCASTLE FOR VOCATION SUNDAY, THE FOURTH SUNDAY OF EASTER. Eternal God, Through the life of your son, you invited all people to “come and see” and to make a home with you. Through the gift of baptism, you have opened our ears that, through word and sacrament, we may hear your call on our lives. We pray that young people may answer this call to ordained priesthood and shepherd your people, to the permanent diaconate and proclaim your gospel, to religious life and witness poverty, chastity, and obedience, to marriage and embody Christ’s love for the church, to single life and serve you more completely. Inspire our lives so that we may have the courage to respond, “speak, Lord, for your servant is listening”. We make this prayer through your son, Jesus Christ. Amen
l/career
@gabrielstcharlesInternships might matter more than your degree
Okay so let's say you've ruled out the doctor, lawyer, engineer route. You're not in one of those fields where the degree is just the path. You're somewhere in the bigger, fuzzier middle, where what you study and what you actually end up doing for work might not even line up that closely. This is the part of the course where we have to start being a bit more strategic, because in this middle ground, the rules of the game are different from what your guidance counsellor probably told you. Here's the thing nobody really sat me down and explained when I was your age. For a lot of fields, work experience matters more than the piece of paper does. Sometimes way more. Think about it for a second. If you're a hiring manager, and you've got two candidates in front of you, one with a four year degree and zero work experience, and one with no degree but four years of stacked internships in the actual industry, who are you picking? The second one, almost every time. Because they've already been doing the job. They know what an office looks like. They know how to handle a client. They know how to take feedback. The first one has a transcript and a hopeful smile. This is something a lot of young people don't realise until it's too late. The four years you spend grinding for a GPA might not actually be doing as much for your employability as you think they are, especially if you're going into a field where employers genuinely care more about what you can do than what you studied. There's also a really underrated upside that gets lost in this conversation, which is that an internship can quietly turn into a full time job. It happens all the time. You go in for a summer, you do good work, you don't make yourself difficult to be around, and somewhere around the end of it, someone in that company decides they don't want to lose you. Suddenly you've got an offer in hand without ever having to compete in the brutal entry level job market that everyone else is drowning in. You've already proven yourself, they already know you, the trust is built. That's worth a lot, and it's a route into a career that a lot of people don't even realise exists. So if you're in one of those fields where internships are common, and you can swing it, this might genuinely be the path. Not as a supplement to a degree, but possibly instead of one, or at least as a much bigger part of the equation than you've been led to believe. And here's the bonus that nobody really talks about. Internships pay. Sometimes not very well, and sometimes not at all, but at the very least, you're not paying them. You're not getting any poorer. You're not racking up debt. Even an unpaid internship is, in a strict financial sense, a much better deal than a degree, because you're investing your time but not your money. Compare that to four years of college, where you're paying tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars to learn things that, in some fields, an internship would teach you for free in six months. That doesn't mean degrees are useless. There are plenty of fields where the degree opens doors that internships alone won't. But before you commit, ask yourself honestly. In the field you're looking at, what actually gets people hired? Look at the LinkedIn profiles of people who have the job you eventually want. How did they get there? Did they all do prestigious degrees, or did most of them stack internships and work their way up? The answer to that question, more than anything else, should shape how much weight you put on a degree in the first place. And one more thing on this. If you're going to go the internship route, you have to be aggressive about it. You can't just apply to one internship in the summer of your second year and call it done. You have to be applying constantly, taking the unpaid ones early, building up a real portfolio of experience, and treating it the way someone else might treat their GPA. Because that stack of internships is going to be your transcript, and the longer you stay in good standing at any of those companies, the higher the chance one of them quietly turns into the offer that sets up your whole career. — Reflect: Pick a job you might actually want one day. Look up three people who currently do that job, on LinkedIn or wherever. How did they actually get there? Did the path they took match what you've been told the path should look like?
l/career@gabrielstcharlesThe passion trap
You've probably been told your whole life to follow your passion, and I'm here to tell you that might be some of the worst advice anyone's ever given you. Hear me out, because this one tends to get people defensive. Following your passion sounds beautiful in theory, but in practice it falls apart pretty quickly, because what you're passionate about and what the world actually needs are often two very different things. And the world, unfortunately, is the thing that pays you. Maybe you're really good at piano. That's amazing, genuinely. But you are most likely not going to be the next Lang Lang, and the world doesn't really have a lot of room for the second best piano player in your town. So if you're staking your whole future on being a concert pianist, you're staking your future on a really small probability, and that's a hard way to live. The reframe I'd offer is this. Instead of asking what you're passionate about, ask what skills your passion has actually taught you, and where else those skills might be useful. Because the same part of you that makes you a really good pianist might also, for some reason, make you a really good systems thinker, which might make you a really good IT person, which is a job that actually exists and actually pays. The discipline you built sitting at a piano for three hours a day is real, and it transfers, and it's worth more in the marketplace than the piano playing itself probably is. Same goes for almost anything. You're a creative person? Cool. There are a hundred ways to apply creativity to roles that pay well, and most of them aren't called "creative jobs." Now, this is where I have to say something that might sting a bit. Don't tell yourself you're a creative person and then go pursue a media or communications degree, because those roles are notoriously hard to make a stable living in, especially early on. There are exceptions, of course. Maybe you'll be one of them. But you have to be really honest with yourself about the odds, and about your fallback. Which actually brings up the bigger point I want to make in this chapter. Your job is not supposed to be the thing that gives your life meaning. I know that sounds harsh in a culture that keeps telling you to find your purpose at work, but think about it for a second. If your job is the thing that gives your life meaning, then a bad week at work becomes a crisis of identity, and that's not a way to live. Your job is supposed to be something that lets you provide for the people you love, that you don't hate getting up for, and that gives you space outside of work to actually live. That's it. That's the bar. A boring, stable job that you can come home from is genuinely one of the best things you can ask for. And ironically, if you're someone who's deeply passionate about something, doing that thing for work is often what kills it. The artist who has to draw what the client wants every day stops loving drawing. The musician who has to play the wedding circuit to pay rent stops loving music. There's a real chance that the thing you love most in this world is something you should protect from your career, not build it around. This isn't me trying to crush anyone's dreams. It's me trying to get you to set up the most boring, stable, secure worst case scenario possible, because that's the foundation that actually frees you up to chase your dreams in the margins. Pursue what pays. Protect what you love. — Reflect: What's a skill or strength your passion has actually given you, that might be useful somewhere completely different from where you'd normally apply it?
l/career@gabrielstcharlesWhen a degree is non-negotiable
This is going to be a short one, because honestly, if you're in this chapter, your path is already pretty clear and most of this course is going to be less useful for you than it is for everyone else. There are some careers where the traditional academic path is just the path. There's no shortcut, there's no trade school equivalent, there's no internship that's going to get you there instead. If you want to be a doctor, you're going to medical school. If you want to be a lawyer, you're going to law school. If you want to go deep into engineering or research or any of the harder sciences, you're going to need the degree. If that's you, and you're genuinely called to it, then congratulations. The discernment of what to do is mostly already settled. Your job now is to commit to it, do the work, and try to come out the other side without losing your soul to the grind, because those paths are notorious for burning people out. A few things I'd still want you to sit with though, even if you're sure. Is this actually your calling, or is it your parents' calling for you? Because medicine and law and engineering tend to attract a lot of kids whose parents have been pointing them toward those careers since they were in middle school. And if you're heading down that road just because it's what was expected of you, you're going to end up a really miserable doctor or a really resentful lawyer, and you're going to have spent ten years and a lot of money to get there. Have you actually shadowed someone in the field? Have you seen what the day to day looks like? Because the version of being a doctor in your head is probably not what being a doctor actually looks like most days. Same goes for law. Same goes for academic research. The fantasy of the career and the reality of the career are very rarely the same thing, and it's worth finding out which one you're actually signing up for before you commit a decade to it. And finally, are you actually built for it? Not in a "do you have the IQ" kind of way, although that matters too. More in a "can you handle eight more years of school, then residency, then the lifestyle that follows" kind of way. Some people genuinely thrive in those environments. A lot of people don't, and they only find out after they're already too far in to back out comfortably. If you've sat with all of that and the answer is still yes, then go for it. The world genuinely needs good doctors, good lawyers, good engineers, and the fact that you're willing to commit to that path is a gift. Just go in with your eyes open, and don't lose sight of why you started. For everyone else, the rest of the course is where the actual decision making happens.
l/career@gabrielstcharlesTrade school and community college
There's a path that doesn't get talked about enough, and it's one that I genuinely think more young people should be considering, especially the ones who aren't sure college is for them but who feel pressured to go anyway because it's just what everyone else is doing. That path is trade school, or community college, or some kind of specialised programme that actually teaches you a specific skill that gets you a specific job. I think a lot of high school graduates have been quietly raised to look down on this path, and I think that's a real shame, because it's one of the most underrated routes available right now. Here's why. When you go to a four year college, you spend a lot of time and money learning a broad range of things, some of which are useful, most of which aren't directly tied to a job. When you go to trade school or community college, you're usually picking up a specific, marketable skill in a much shorter time, for a much smaller fraction of the cost, that translates almost immediately into employment. You finish, you have a qualification, you go and work. Plumbing. Electrical work. HVAC. Welding. Dental hygiene. Nursing. Real estate. Coding bootcamps. Mechanic work. There are dozens of these, and most of them lead to jobs that pay genuinely well, that aren't going anywhere any time soon, and that don't require you to be in debt for the next twenty years. And here's something most people don't think about. A lot of these trades are actually really hard to outsource and really hard to automate. The plumber in your town isn't being replaced by AI. He's there, he's needed, and the demand for his work isn't going down. If anything, with the older generation of tradesmen retiring and not enough young people coming in to replace them, the demand is going up. There's also something to be said about the kind of life these jobs allow you to live. You finish your day, you go home, you don't take it with you. You're not lying in bed at 11pm worrying about a slide deck. You did real work, you got paid for it, and now your evening is yours. There's a peace in that kind of life that office workers spend their whole careers trying to recreate, and you can have it from the start. I'm not saying everyone should be a plumber. I'm saying that if you're not particularly drawn to academic work, and you're not sure what you want to study, and the only reason you're considering college is because you don't know what else to do, please look at this path before you sign up for a hundred thousand dollars of debt. Because if you're going to spend two years in school anyway, you might as well come out the other end with a specific skill that pays the bills, instead of a degree in something vague that might not. And honestly, even if you do eventually want to go to a four year college, community college can be a smart way to handle the first two years. Cheaper, often easier to get into, and the credits often transfer. You finish your first half of college without nearly as much debt, and you can decide whether you actually want to go on for the rest. This isn't a glamorous chapter, I know. But it might be the most practically useful one in this whole course for some of you, and if it is, please don't skip past it just because the path doesn't sound as exciting as the four year college dream. — Reflect: If you took college off the table for a second, and the only options on the table were trade school, community college, an apprenticeship, or going straight into work, which one would you pick? And what does your gut reaction to that question tell you?
l/career@gabrielstcharlesDo you even need a degree?
This is the first question, and it's the one most people end up skipping, because it's a lot easier to jump straight into "what should I study" than it is to actually sit with whether you should be studying at all. So slow down for a second. I'm not here to tell you college is a scam, and I'm not here to tell you everyone needs to go either. The honest answer is, it depends, and most people who give you a confident answer on this one are probably selling you something. It depends on what you want to do, what you can afford, what kind of person you are, and what the world actually rewards in the season of life you happen to find yourself in. But before we get into any of that, there's one path I want you to think through honestly, because a lot of young guys seem to lean into it as a way out. The online business thing. Maybe you've watched a few too many videos of guys in rented Lamborghinis telling you that college is for losers, and that the real money is in dropshipping, or crypto, or whatever the algorithm happens to be pushing this week. And maybe part of you wants to believe it, because it lets you skip the harder decision in front of you, and that's a really tempting thing to do when you're 18 and the next move feels enormous. I really don't want to be the guy who crushes that for you. But the chance of you becoming the next online millionaire is small. It isn't zero, but it is small enough that you probably shouldn't be planning your life around it. And if you're being honest with yourself, you probably already know that. That doesn't mean working for yourself is off the table though. There's a different version of self-employment that's actually really realistic, and honestly, it's a great option for a lot of people. I'm talking about starting a real business that does real work. Landscaping, plumbing, a trade, some kind of service that's in demand in your town, that someone in your community actually needs done. That's a real path, and a humble one, and it probably won't get you a Lamborghini, but it might get you a stable income, a decent life, and the strange kind of peace that comes with knowing you built something with your hands. If that's the kind of thing you're drawn to, then you might not need a degree at all, and trade school or an apprenticeship could honestly serve you better than four years and a pile of debt would. But if you're not built for that, or if something else is pulling at you, then the question changes. And that's really what the rest of this course is going to try to walk through with you. What you actually want out of life. What you can realistically afford. What might be worth going into debt for, and what definitely isn't. For now though, just sit with this one question for a second. Do you actually need a degree, or are you just doing it because you're supposed to? — Reflect: Why do you think you need a degree? Try to sit with that one honestly for a second, because it's not a question most people actually stop to ask themselves. Is it because you've genuinely thought it through, or is it because it's just what the people around you have always assumed you'd do?
l/career@gabrielstcharlesIf you're a man
Same heads up as the last chapter, this one is specifically the conversation for men, so if it's not yours, skim or skip. Though again, the underlying logic carries, so reading it probably won't hurt. Alright. If you're a man, then a good chunk of what you should be thinking about is how you're going to provide. Not in a "men are wallets" kind of way, but in a real, traditional, this is part of the job kind of way. Whoever you marry, whatever children you end up having, the bulk of the financial weight of that family is probably going to fall on you. That's not a bad thing. That's actually a beautiful and meaningful thing. But it does mean that your degree, or your trade, or whatever you decide to do, has to actually be able to carry it. So you have to think honestly about how much you actually need to be able to provide. And before we go any further, I want to push back on something, because if you're a young man on the internet you've probably been marinating in it for a while. The redpill movement will try to tell you that women only marry for money, or for looks, or for status, and that if you don't have those things you're cooked. I'm here to tell you that's not really true. There are absolutely some women out there for whom that's the whole game, and you should run from those women anyway, because they wouldn't be a good wife for you regardless of how much you make. But there are also a lot of really good women, way more than the internet will admit to, who are not looking for a rich man or a tall man or a particularly good looking man. They're looking for a man of character. They're looking for someone who carries himself well, who has his life relatively in order, who treats people with dignity, and who they can build something real with. You don't have to be Brad Pitt with a million dollar salary to find a wife. You have to be a man worth marrying, and that's almost entirely within your control. But, all that said, you do still have to be able to provide. So the question becomes, what kind of life are you actually trying to build, and how much does that cost? Because the answer to that question shapes the kind of degree, or trade, or path you should be picking. If you're someone who genuinely doesn't need much to be content, a small house, a stable wife, a few kids, dinner on the table, then your bar is actually pretty manageable. You don't need a Wall Street salary to provide for that life. You need a stable trade, or a steady mid level career, or a small business that does real work for real people. That's it. And that's actually a much freer place to live from than the guy who's decided he needs to make three hundred grand a year to feel like a man. But if you've got bigger ambitions, that's also fine. Just be honest about it, because a bigger ambition means a more demanding path, more years of training, more debt potentially, more risk. And it also tends to mean you'll be looking for a different kind of woman, because the woman who's happy in the small house with the kids and the simple life isn't usually the same woman who wants the Manhattan apartment and the dinner parties. Both are valid. They just cost different things. And the cost is on you to carry. So the question I'd really want you to sit with, before you pick anything, is what kind of provider you're actually trying to become. Because the answer shapes everything else, and a lot of guys never stop to ask it. They just pick the most prestigious degree they can get into and assume the life will sort itself out from there. It usually doesn't.
l/career@gabrielstcharlesWhat do you actually want?
Before you can figure out what to study, you need to figure out what kind of life you're actually trying to build, and that's a question I don't think enough 18 year olds get asked seriously. Most people skip this part, because it's uncomfortable, and because the world doesn't really make space for you to sit with it. You're handed a list of degrees, you're told to pick one, and the assumption is that the lifestyle will sort itself out later. But the lifestyle doesn't sort itself out later. The lifestyle is the whole reason you're picking the degree in the first place. So sit with this for a second. What do you actually want? Not what your parents want for you. Not what looks good on Instagram. Not what the kid you're trying to impress thinks is impressive. What do you, actually, when no one's watching, want your life to look like in ten years? Maybe it's a quiet life. A small house, a wife, a few kids, enough money to not have to worry about groceries, and a boring job you don't hate. That's a beautiful life, and it's a very achievable one, but you have to be honest about it, because the degree path that gets you there looks really different from the degree path that gets you a Manhattan apartment and a six figure consulting job. Maybe it's something bigger and louder. That's fine too. But you have to know which one it is, because they cost different amounts, and they ask different things of you, and chasing the wrong one is how people end up 30 with a pile of debt and a job they took because the lifestyle they thought they wanted demanded it. And here's the part where I'd ask you to be a bit more honest with yourself than is comfortable. Why do you want what you want? If you're chasing a certain kind of lifestyle, where's that coming from? Is it because that's genuinely what makes you feel alive, or is it because somewhere along the way you decided you needed to prove something? To your parents, to your hometown, to the kids who didn't pick you, to yourself. Because a lot of the time, the lifestyle people end up chasing isn't really the lifestyle they want. It's the lifestyle they think will finally make them feel like enough. And no degree, no salary, no job title is ever going to fix that, because that's not actually a money problem. I'm not saying don't aim high. Aim wherever you want. But know why you're aiming there, because the answer to that question is going to shape every other decision in this course. The kind of work you can stomach. The kind of debt that's worth taking on. The kind of person you'll end up marrying. The kind of father or mother you'll be able to be. All of that is downstream of this one question, so don't rush it. — Reflect: If money was already taken care of, and no one was watching, what would you actually be doing with your days? And does the path you're currently considering have anything to do with that answer, or are they two completely different lives?
l/career@gabrielstcharlesBe honest about your fallback
Here's something people don't like to talk about, but you have to talk about it if you're going to make a smart decision here. The right path for you depends partly on what your safety net actually looks like. And the safety net is different for different people. That's not unfair, that's just reality, and pretending it isn't true is how a lot of young people end up making decisions that look smart on paper but don't actually fit the life they're walking into. So sit with this for a second. If everything went wrong, and you finished your degree and couldn't find a job, or you started a business and it failed, or you took a creative path that didn't work out, what happens to you? Do you have parents who would let you move home for a couple of years and figure things out? Do you have parents who would help with rent for a bit while you regroup? Or do you have nobody, and the second things go sideways, you're on your own with a pile of debt and no plan? Because those are wildly different situations. And the smart move for someone in the first situation is often a really dumb move for someone in the third. If you come from a financially comfortable background, and your parents have made it clear they'll back you if things don't work out, you genuinely can afford to take more risk. You can study something a bit more passion-driven. You can chase a more competitive industry. You can try to start a business in your early twenties, fail, and get a do-over. That's a real privilege, and if you have it, you should use it wisely, but you also shouldn't pretend you don't have it. Most of the people giving advice on the internet about following your dreams come from this kind of background, even if they don't admit it. The reason they could afford to take the swing is because someone behind them was holding the rope. If you don't have that, your calculus has to be different. If you fail, and there's nobody to catch you, then a stable, boring, in demand career is probably worth a lot more to you than a passion-driven gamble. Because the cost of getting it wrong is much higher for you than it is for the kid whose dad is going to call him a few favours either way. This isn't fair, and I'm not telling you it is. I'm telling you that ignoring it doesn't make it less real, it just makes you more likely to get hurt by it. So when you're picking a path, factor in your own situation honestly. Not what your friends are picking, not what some Instagram account is pushing, not what feels exciting. What does your actual safety net look like, and how much risk does that net allow you to take. If the answer is "not much", then the smartest thing you can do is set yourself up with the most boring, most stable, most marketable foundation possible, and then chase whatever bigger dreams you have once that foundation is built. A specific skill that pays. Once you've got a roof over your head and you're not sweating rent every month, you can chase whatever you want from there. Because the secret most people don't tell you is that the boring stable foundation is what actually frees you. It's the people who skipped that step who end up trapped, working jobs they hate just to service the debt from the degree they took because it sounded exciting. Don't be that person if you can avoid it. Set up the boring, stable worst case scenario first. Then go chase whatever you want from there. — Reflect: If everything you're currently planning fell apart in three years, what actually happens to you? Sit with that honestly for a minute. Does the path you're picking right now match the safety net you actually have, or does it match the safety net you wish you had?
l/career@gabrielstcharlesYour job is not your life
If you take nothing else from this course, take this. Your job is not supposed to be the thing that gives your life meaning. And the sooner you really understand that, the easier almost every decision in this course becomes. We live in a culture that has very quietly turned work into a religion. You're told to find your purpose in your career. You're told that what you do for a living is who you are. You're told to grind, to optimise, to lean in, to build a personal brand, to follow your passion, to never settle, and on and on it goes. And by the time you're 22, you've absorbed the message that if your career isn't ascending, your life isn't valuable. But that's a lie. Maybe one of the loneliest lies our generation has been sold. Because if your career is the thing that gives your life meaning, then a bad week at work becomes a crisis of identity. A layoff becomes a kind of grief. Retirement becomes terrifying. And worst of all, the people in your life, your family, your friends, the future spouse you haven't even met yet, become secondary to the thing you're really worshipping, which is your own ambition. Your job is not supposed to bear that weight. It can't. It was never meant to. What's supposed to give your life meaning is Christ. And after Him, the people He gives you to love. Your family. Your future husband or wife. The children you might one day be responsible for. The friends and the community God will plant around you. That's the actual scaffolding of a meaningful life, and the job is just the thing you do to support it. This is something I'd really invite you to sit with, because it changes everything. If your job is not the thing your life is built around, then suddenly, "boring and stable" stops sounding like settling, and starts sounding like wisdom. Because a boring stable job that pays the bills and lets you go home at five and be present with your kids is, by almost every measure that actually matters, a much better life than a glamorous job that consumes you. If your job is not the thing your life is built around, then the question of what to study stops being "what's going to make me feel important" and starts being "what's going to let me build the kind of life God seems to be calling me towards." If your job is not the thing your life is built around, then maybe you can let go of some of the panic you've been feeling about getting this decision exactly right, because the truth is, even if you pick wrong, the Lord's will for your life isn't going to be derailed by a degree. Some of the holiest, happiest people I've ever known have done the most unremarkable jobs. And some of the most miserable people I've ever known have had careers their parents bragged about. There isn't a clean correlation between what you do for work and what your life is actually worth, and anyone telling you otherwise is selling you something. So pick your path. Take it seriously. Use everything in this course to be honest with yourself about what fits you, what you can afford, what's worth the risk. But hold it all loosely. Because the goal of your life is not the career. The goal is your soul. The goal is the people God puts in your life. The goal is Heaven. And whatever you end up doing for work, if it lets you take care of the people you love, gives you space to be present, and doesn't pull you away from the Lord, then it's a good job. It really is that simple. The world will spend the rest of your life trying to convince you otherwise. Don't let it. — Sit with this honestly: what is your life actually built around right now? And is that something worth building a life on?
l/career@gabrielstcharlesIf you're a woman
Heads up that this chapter is specifically about discerning a degree as a woman, and the next one is the same conversation for men. If this one isn't yours, feel free to skim or skip ahead, though I'd still recommend reading because the underlying logic is going to apply either way. Okay, so. The question of what to study is a slightly different question for women, and I think it's worth being honest about that, even though the culture would prefer we pretend it isn't. Here's the thing. There are a few different lives you might be discerning toward, and the right degree, if any, really depends on which one you're actually called to. If you're a woman who genuinely just wants to be provided for by a husband, and to live a simple life raising your children, that's a beautiful vocation, and it's a valid one. But if that's actually the life you want, then the question you should be sitting with isn't really about your degree at all. The question is about how picky you can afford to be about who you marry. And here's where I have to be a bit blunt, because nobody else is going to be. How picky you can afford to be is going to depend partly on what you bring to the table, and that's a sentence the culture really doesn't want anyone to say out loud anymore. But it's true. Some women are going to have a relatively easy time finding a man with the means to comfortably provide. Some women aren't. And if you're more in the second camp, that doesn't mean the vocation isn't yours, it just means you might have to widen your idea of what being provided for actually looks like. Maybe it's not a man who can fund a comfortable upper middle class lifestyle on his own. Maybe it's a good, hardworking, faithful man with a stable trade, and a small house, and a quiet simple life with a couple of kids. And honestly, that's a beautiful life, and probably a much holier one than the one most women are out there chasing. So the discernment, really, is twofold. How picky can you afford to be, and how picky do you actually need to be to be content. Because if you can be genuinely happy with a simple life, then the pool of men you could marry well is a lot bigger than if you've decided you need a six figure husband to be okay. And tied to all of this, please be honest with yourself about whether a degree even makes sense for you in this scenario. Because it isn't really fair to want to not work, and then take on a hundred thousand dollars of student debt that your future husband is going to inherit responsibility for. That's a decision he should be part of, ideally before the debt is taken on, and not after. Now, maybe you want a slightly different version of that. Maybe you want to be home with your children when they're young, but you want to be able to step into something meaningful once they're older. That's also a beautiful and valid vocation, and a degree might genuinely make sense in that case. But you have to be careful about what you pick, because the world is changing fast, and you need to choose something whose value will hold up fifteen or twenty years from now. A solid, timeless choice that has worked for generations of women is nursing. It's a real skill, it's in high demand, it's stable, and a lot of the things you learn actually carry over into motherhood in really useful ways. Education is another one, especially if you're thinking about homeschooling. There are others too, but those are two that tend to age really well. The principle here is, don't take on stupid debt. Ask yourself if it's actually going to be worth what you're going to owe, because if your end goal is to step out of the workforce eventually, then debt becomes a much bigger problem than it would be for someone planning to work for forty years. And then there's the third version, where you do want a full career, the whole "have it all" path. If that's you, the rest of this course basically applies to you the same way it applies to the guys, so you can take the men's chapter and apply most of it to yourself. The only thing I'd add, gently, is to be honest with yourself about which of those three you actually want, and not which one you've been told you should want. Because they're three really different paths, and they ask really different things from your degree, and pretending you want one when you actually want another is how you end up resentful at 35.
l/career@gabrielstcharlesWhat's about to disappear
Here's something most people aren't thinking about seriously enough when they pick a degree. The world is changing fast right now. Faster, probably, than at any point in living memory. And the degree that looked like a smart bet three years ago might genuinely not be a smart bet anymore. So when you're picking what to study, you can't just be looking at what jobs exist today. You have to be looking, as honestly as you can, at what jobs are going to exist in four years, when you actually graduate. Now, I want to be careful here, because nobody can actually predict the future. Anyone who tells you they know exactly which jobs are going to be safe and which ones are going to be wiped out is selling you something. So I'm not going to do that. But you can do due diligence. You can look at what's already happening right now, and you can make reasonably honest guesses based on the patterns you're seeing. The most obvious one, and probably the one most relevant to a lot of you, is what's happening with AI and the entry level coding world. A few years ago, computer science was the safest, smartest, most obvious degree a smart kid could possibly pick. The jobs were everywhere, the salaries were absurd, and tech companies were hiring junior developers by the thousand. So a lot of young people poured into computer science programs. That world is already gone, or close to it. Right now, AI is eating the junior developer role from the inside. The kind of code that used to be a junior dev's first two years of work, the boilerplate stuff, the simple bug fixes, the routine feature builds, AI does most of that now, and it does it faster and cheaper than a junior dev can. Companies that used to hire ten juniors are hiring two, and giving them more senior tools to work with. The entry level door is closing, and that's the door you actually need to walk through to start a career. So if you're sitting there in 2026 thinking about studying computer science, you really, really need to think hard about whether you're going to be able to find that crucial first job at the end of it. Because a degree without a path into the industry is a very expensive piece of paper. This isn't just a coding problem. The same dynamic is going to play out, in different ways and on different timelines, in a lot of other fields. Legal research. Translation. Junior accounting. Customer service. A lot of administrative work. Anywhere where the entry level job is mostly about doing repeatable cognitive tasks, AI is coming for that job, and the entry level role is usually the first one to go. That doesn't mean these fields are dead. Senior lawyers will still exist. Senior accountants will still exist. The problem is, you can't become a senior lawyer or a senior accountant without first being a junior one. So if the junior roles are disappearing, the whole career ladder gets harder to climb, even if the top of the ladder still looks fine. The fields that look most resilient, at least for now, are the ones where the work is physical, or relational, or so high stakes that you can't really hand it off to a machine. Trades. Healthcare. Skilled in person services. Anything where being a real human being in a room with another real human being is the actual product. Those jobs are going to be much slower to be disrupted, if they get disrupted at all. So the question I want you to sit with is, when you look at the degree you're considering, what does the entry level job at the end of it actually look like in four years? Is it going to still exist, in roughly the same form, with roughly the same opportunities? Or is it one of those jobs where the writing is already on the wall and most people just haven't read it yet? You don't have to be a futurist to do this. You just have to be willing to look honestly at the field you're walking into, instead of assuming the world will look the same when you graduate as it does the day you enrol. Because in this season of history, that assumption is probably the riskiest one you can make. — Reflect: Take the degree you're currently considering. Now picture the actual entry level job at the end of it. Try to honestly describe what that job looks like in four years. Is it still there? Has it changed? Is it harder or easier to get? Sit with what your honest answer to that is.
l/wellbeing@thelegion@thomas just completed "Fr. Mike on Fitness"
l/skills@misericordiaWhat skills do you have?
As an introduction - what are the skills that you have? How are you glorifying God through them?
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@littlemariHappy Lab Week 👩🏻🔬
Any Lab Rats here?🧪🔬
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@the_catechized_coachPatron St of England and Soldiers
Saint George, pray for us!
l/fitness@the_catechized_coachNutrition the backbone of faith and fitness
We know that our spiritual nutrition would be lacking if we didn’t consume the Eucharist regularly and, in fact, our spiritual lives would be better if we received God more often. The same principle applies to our health. If we only eat the foods that are best for us a couple times a week or less, why are we surprised we aren’t as healthy as we would like to be? I will admit spiritual nutrition is easier in a sense, all that we need is present in the Eucharist. But we still should prepare, receive, and give thanks (literally the meaning of Eucharist). We should follow the same steps with our meals, prepare for them, plan when we will eat and what we will have. Receive them and be present, try not to eat distracted or in a hurry. And lastly give thanks for what you are able to eat, even if it’s not the most delicious meal, if it helps you grow in health and is full of good nutrients, that’s a blessing! What’s one way you can practice these steps with your meals this coming week?
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@rayray626Traveling To NOLA
Traveling To NOLA Next Month For A Conference Anything I Should Be On The Lookout For Or Go See???
l/forumInfidelity from Catholics
This is something I’ve been repeatedly shocked by, hearing stories of both men and women who were seemingly good Catholics, but turned out to be cheating on their spouses, or the person they were dating. We’ve all heard the big scandals, but it seems to happen so often even in our circles. I am curious, am I the only one who’s had this impression or heard these stories? It is kind of scary to think. I mean can people sometimes just be not who they say there are?
@liandumkeCatholics in Germany putting politics above the Church
I‘ve met many Germans who consider themselves Catholic, and yet support abortion, lgbt, want a female pope, etc. This includes people who go to, or even work at my local church regularly. Even the „Katholische Religionslehre“ teacher at my Gymnasium seems to put personal political beliefs above church teachings, even when they contradict even the least debatable of beliefs. Is it just me being unlucky, or does someone else also have a similar experience?
l/legion@thelegionNew course: First time job seekers
We just dropped a new course for those thinking about how to navigate this stage of life. This isn’t the advice your parents will give you. (Unless they happen to be very plugged into today’s job market.) You will find this and other new courses in the **Courses** tab! Be sure to join l/career if you need guidance, or have experience that you can share.
l/legion@gabrielstcharlesFinal Word. Post Your Stuff in the Forum.
You made it to the end. Here's the thing about everything we've covered: reading it is step one. Actually doing it is step two through two hundred. So before you close this course, here's what I want you to do. Go to the Legion forum and post your resume for peer feedback. Not a recruiter. Not your uncle. Actual other people who are in roughly the same spot as you. This community is full of people who've looked at a lot of resumes, including their own, too many times. Fresh eyes will catch things you can't see anymore, because you've been staring at the same document for three weeks. If you've got a cover letter draft, post that too. If you've got a LinkedIn profile you're not sure about, share the link. If you've been ghosted and don't know what went wrong, post the job description and your resume and let people tell you what they see. You don't have to take all the feedback you get. Some of it will be wrong. Some of it will be useful. You decide. But you can't get feedback you don't ask for, and you can't get better in a vacuum. The whole point of Legion is that your vocation isn't just your prayer life. It's also the actual work of building a life in the world. A lot of Catholic content treats professional life like an afterthought. It isn't. Work is where most of us spend most of our waking hours, and doing it well — and getting to do it in the first place — is part of what it means to show up as a Christian in the world. So use the forum. Ask for help. Help someone else while you're at it. Keep applying. Keep tracking. Keep going. You've got this. And when you land the job (and you will), come back and tell us. Somebody three months behind you needs to hear it.
l/legion@gabrielstcharlesHandling Rejection and Ghosting
This is the hardest chapter to write, because there's no trick that makes this part not hurt. You will get rejected. A lot. You will also get ghosted, which is worse in a way, because at least a rejection tells you where you stand. Ghosting leaves you waiting for a reply that was never coming. The volume of "no" you're going to receive is hard to describe in advance. It's not two or three. It's sometimes dozens. Sometimes more. Some will be from companies you thought you had a real shot at. Some will come after you already did three rounds of interviews and started getting excited. A few will come after you'd already told your family it looked promising. It's brutal. All of it. **Here's what I've learned about surviving this part:** - **Rejection is usually not about you.** It's about fit, timing, internal politics, budget freezes, the person they interviewed right after you, a thousand things you can't see. Stop reading it as a verdict on your worth. - **Volume is your friend.** The only way not to be crushed by any one rejection is to have enough things in the pipeline that no single one matters too much. If your whole search is pinned on one company, every delay feels catastrophic. If you have 15 applications out, any one of them going cold is a Tuesday. - **Don't apply and wait.** Apply and move on. The moment you hit submit, mentally file it under "who knows" and keep applying elsewhere. Treat any good news later as a bonus, not an expectation. - **Ghosting is also rejection.** If two weeks have passed with no reply to a follow-up, it's a no. Grieve it briefly and move on. Don't keep checking your inbox at midnight. - **Don't internalize the silence as proof you're unworthy.** The market is genuinely broken right now. Companies ghost people with twenty years of experience. You're not the exception. One more thing. You can't control whether they reply. You can't control whether they pick you. You can control whether you keep going. The ones who make it aren't the ones who were obviously the best. They're the ones who kept applying after the fiftieth rejection. The ones who kept fixing their resume, kept asking for feedback, kept showing up. That can be you. But it's a choice. Every morning, a choice.
l/legion@gabrielstcharlesSalary. Make Them Fall in Love First.
Salary negotiation is its own art. But for your first job, here's the only rule you really need: **Make them fall in love with you before you talk numbers.** When an application or a recruiter asks you for your expected salary upfront, before any interview, before any real conversation, do not anchor yourself. Give a very wide range. Or say it depends on the full package. Or ask what the range for the role is. Deflect the question politely until later in the process. Why? Because if you name a number that's too high before they've decided they want you, they'll just move on to someone cheaper. And if you name one that's too low, you've left money on the table. I'll tell you a story because this is a mistake I actually made. I had what would have been a great first role. Good work, good team, good field. When they asked my salary expectations early, I anchored high — higher than I would've actually been happy to take. They went with someone else. I later found out my number was the reason. If I'd just deflected with "happy to discuss once I understand the role better," I'd have had the offer. Instead I lost the opportunity entirely. **For your first job, the rules are:** 1. Get them to want you first. All the way. 2. Don't name a specific number until they've essentially told you they want to make an offer. 3. When it's finally time to talk money, research what the role actually pays (Glassdoor, Levels.fyi, LinkedIn salary data). Aim for the middle to upper end of that range. 4. Once you have an offer, it's often worth trying to negotiate up 5 to 10 percent. Most people don't. "Is there any flexibility on the base?" is a fine line to use. 5. Don't price yourself out of your first job. A slightly lower first-job salary that gets you on the ladder is worth more than the perfect salary you never actually get because you pushed too hard. Your second job is when you really start earning what you're worth. Your first job is when you earn the right to have a second job. Have you actually looked up salary data for roles in your field? If not, go do it now. Come back and share a range that surprised you, high or low.
