Raising kids in faith without being annoying about it

I've got a 12-year-old and a 9-year-old, and honestly, getting them to care about going to Mass feels like herding cats some days. They'd rather be home playing with their friends. I used to think the answer was more rules and more talking about sin and hellfire, but that just made them resent it. What's actually worked is letting them see that this matters to me, not because I'm trying to earn points upstairs, but because it makes my life better. We've started a small thing where after Mass on Sundays, we go get appam from that shop near the church and just talk about whatever. My daughter actually asked me a real question about God last week without me prompting it. So if you're frustrated with your kids, maybe it's not about forcing them to understand yet. It's about showing them you're serious without making it a punishment. Would love to hear what works for other parents here.